Down below, Renee complains:
Astutely, she brings up the correlation between being a side bitch (or a side nigga) and being LJBF’d by someone. In the first case, a side nigga is someone who is used for sex and possibly emotional/financial support also. Such a person is strung along by the object of his desire, while she (or he) makes great plans for the future with her (or his) first choice — who isn’t the side nigga. In the second, the situation is precisely similar, though even the sexual contact is removed.
If someone pretends to like you, and manipulates you into meeting her (or his) needs, while not even deigning to have sex with you, then you’re a chump. My prescription is to dump that bitch (or that nigga) and quit wasting your time.
A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself, in any relationship, if you are benefitting. If you’re not even gaining a tiny advantage in return for your time invested, then you should cut your losses immediately.
The correlation between the side nigga and the LJBF certainly needs some further deconstruction. Look for a more serious article in the near future.
I applaud you for translating the original passage into English.
Sir
My smart phone changed some of the words before I hit reply. I do speak English but it’s hard for me to type at times
Don’t sweat it. I understood you perfectly. ???? It was a good observation.
More generally, this is why I’m constantly telling men that they shouldn’t feel badly when they get rejected. It might be a minor ego bump to be told to fuck off by a prospective girlfriend, but she’s really doing you a favor. The prospect of stringing some poor chump along for free food, rides and attention is probably very tempting to most women.
The frustrated woman should attempt seduction if she wants sex, and if her effort fails, either raise her game or cut the cord.
Men should just cut the cord; never try twice. (Women are so accustomed to the man making the moves and taking all the risks, that many are totally inept and unable to make a proper pass. On the one hand, they’re strong empowered women. On the other, why isn’t the guy doing all the romantic seduction work?)
A healthy rule for a man who’s interested is to kiss a woman on the lips on the first date, and if she turns her head and gives him the cheek — cut the cord. A woman who wants to see you again, kisses you. If she decides she screwed up, she’ll get back in touch. But women are expert at sending indications of interest that have nothing to do with desire, and that’s the tar pit of LJBF.
Welcome BuenaVista:
Listed as facts for all to know.
Do you have a blog of your own? If not, you might ought to consider it. This is gold.
Regards,
Boxer
No blog.
The first-date kiss rule has worked every time, except once in Bulgaria and once in Russia. (And they called back … ) But eastern European women don’t smile like doped-up checkout girls either, or laugh easily. They’re just different.
In USA, there’s magic in their smile, and information in their kiss.
Well, I hope you’ll consider starting your own blog. You’re clearly a sharp thinker and a decent writer.
I suspect that blogs (even if they’re only occasionally updated) are a much more powerful indicator of dissent than comments on other people’s sites.