I think that this series is valuable for many reasons. Of course, if you married a single mother who turned out to be decent, and you’re happy, it’s all good… but if that’s the case, you are the exception that proves the rule.
Down below, our brother Anonymous from the Big Apple shares his story dating — and almost marrying — a single mom of another sort. It definitely merits a place on the front page. Let’s hear him tell it…
When I was wrapping up undergrad, I got entangled with 28 year old gold digger I met through the singles group at church… she initially got me with alot of one-on-one attention (i used to flirt alot back then, but never had a girlfriend) and things just escalated on their own.
She got to me with blowjobs, titty fucks, hand jobs… pretty much everything except full penis in vagina sex. In our hypocrisy, that was a line we did not want to cross given that we met at church and were going to enormous lengths to rationalize all the lines that we were crossing.
Anyway, the BJs had me hooked, and there were all sorts of red flags such as gas lighting and shit tests. I didn’t even know what to call them, but I knew that it was all shitty.
When I was on the verge of letting her go, about 6 months in (the BJs were good, but didnt justify the shit tests), she dumped on me that she had an abortion, and felt worthless, and couldnt lose a prize catch like me, and she would stop the shit tests etc etc etc. I should’ve cut ties right then and there… but i was a naive early 20 something, and she was clearly an experienced capital H, HO. Fast forward 2 years later, and the shit tests havent stopped, she’s made me become estranged from my family… she is a full out flirt with any cute, cut up masculine man that stops by church, and i am committed to be married to her (i was very beta, and was shit-tested into putting a ring on it).
Dont fear, my friends, there is a happy ending to this tale. I finally grew a pair and cut her off the morning of the wedding. YES – i am that guy who hit the lottery by walking away and avoiding a lifetime of ruin.
NEXTING a Ho can be expensive the longer you wait. So the lesson for the young guys is to cut bait quick. Since i waited until the BIG WEDDING DAY, i ended up having to write checks for all the vendors that had already been booked… it was a super cheap wedding, by NYC standards, but i still ended up writing checks for close to $9k…. in retrospect, cutting it at the 6 month mark like i wanted to would have been way cheaper. but 9k is a small price to pay to avoid getting divorce raped a few years later anyway…
Had to wait a while, but eventually found a normal (not claiming she’s a nawalt) woman and she is a faithful stay at home / home-schooling mom to the children she bore me.
What a story! Respect to this brother and the cool female he ended up marrying.
Do you have a story about falling into a single mom’s fishtrap? Tell all in the comments, or submit an effortpoast by email.
So it seems the only game single mothers have is emotional manipulation and trying to trap men through sex. What they won’t do is be humble and feminine.
Earl, you won’t have sex with them, so do they always break up with you when they find out that sex is off the table?
They never tell me the reason why they break up other than the feelings they have at that moment.
Or put another way…they never say specifically they are breaking up because of the lack of fornication.
That woman in the opening Photo. LOL! In 20 years, she is really going to start looking like an ugly monster, I suspect. Perhaps she just has bad genetics. Hopefully the kids take more after their father.
I think you take a girl like that home to meet your parents, just to prep them. So that when you bring the girl you really want to marry home, they’ll be relieved and accepting of her.
Good story Big Apple! If I had dumped my wife on our wedding day, which crossed my mind, I’d most likely be a happy blue pilled family man right now married to a somewhat more sane woman. But apparently God foresaw that I needed to have a rude red-pill awakening.
Monday I picked up my one son from school, because my wife stayed home from work at her apartment with my other son who was sick. Then the son I had threw up in my foyer, as I was getting ready to take him back to his mother. After dropping him off I spoke to my wife alone, and told her, “you know these things would be easier if we were on the same team”. To which she angrily blurted out, “Well you need to get some help”[she imagines I’m psychologically abusive, for refusing to deify her]”And then you need to get onto MY team”. And of course then she darted back into her apartment and slammed the door, because she always has to have the last word.
People probably think I’m crazy for “wasting my life” attempting to reconcile with that mess, for the sake of the testimony of Christ, and for the sake of my sons, but sometimes our duty in life is to charge the cannons. She really does think that it is her place to be the head of the team, and most churchians completely agree that my problem is that I’m unwilling to worship the goddess and know my place in the Matriarchy.
Sometimes I’ve just got to laugh at the whole world with amused mastery. Our world is so foolish that I seem to vacillate between regretting the foolishness of my generation, and just wanting to laugh at it. Oh well, some people can still be helped, and so it is my mission to educate and red-pill and lead as many to repentance and righteousness as I can.
“Had to wait a while, but eventually found a normal (not claiming she.s a nawalt) woman and she is a faithful stay at home / home-schooling mom to the children she bore me.”
What a simp.
So he wins the jack pot when he has to look after a lazy stay at home parasite?
Why did you link your trad con blog to my site?
“earl says:
2019-04-09 at 06:45
So it seems the only game single mothers have is emotional manipulation and trying to trap men through sex. What they won.t do is be humble and feminine.”
They are feminine, females are not naturally humble.
You trad cons tell yourselves that certain traits are feminine, when in fact they are fantasy feminine traits, when when females do not match up to them, you call them unfeminine.
Delusional, females are socially dominant and use men in relationships. Men are so desperate they tell themselves that a stay at home parasite is a good deal.
Desperate, eh? If your wife works, your chance of divorce immediately increases 39% minimum. If she becomes the sole wage earner, your chance of divorce has more than doubled.
What you’ve described as parasitism is more accurately described as symbiosis. It is the foundation a functioning society.
Citation: Sexonomics: Odds of Divorce
Dear Faggot:
1. How is this site, which promotes cultural marxism and the single life, “trad con” [sic]?
2. Where’s the link to your site, you friendless masturbator?
You’re welcome to keep showing up here to feed your masochistic compulsions for hostile banter, but in case you didn’t grok the first dozen times, I’ll just cop to the fact that I’ve never liked or respected you, and don’t care about your opinions.
Regards,
Boxer
So congratulating someone on getting married is not trad con?
If the faggot doesn’t know what femininity is…he certainly won’t know what masculinity is either.
No, First In the……….it’s just called manners. Basic decorum. General principles. Everyone wants to know the why whole world is a terrible place…..a very small part of this is just that. Basic manners. It’s not a trad con thing, it’s what you just do.
For those who don’t know, Fist In the Face Of Misandry is one of dozens of sockpuppets of a perpetually angry incel, usually known as TamurLAME. If you haven’t seen his antics, think Eliot Rodger meets Homer Simpson. He used to reg on Omega Virgin Revolt, back in the day, though he left in an angry huff after an embarrassing public meltdown with his gay lover, Stoner With A Boner. Both of these two nincompoops were banned here, years ago, after they spammed this blog with gay pr0n. Their original issue with me is the same as the one noted by Dalrock, Gunner Q, Cane Caldo and SirHamster: namely my refusal to take a shit on another manosphere author (who, while he happens to be a homosexual, is a genuinely decent guy.)
This is a distinctly modern neurosis: the need to arrogantly push one’s own proclivities into the faces of all and sundry. It’s both the cause and the effect of atomism.
As a normal man, I congratulate family men on getting married, and don’t arrogantly lecture them about how they’re idiots. I also don’t order pork-chop sandwich when I’m out with my Jew friends, for example. I don’t drink when I’m out with my Muslim friends. When I’m hanging out with my Mormon family, I don’t boast about running African-American hoez.
Of course, everyone involved probably knows that I do these things, but I don’t feel the need to offend people that I love and respect gratuitously. That’s why I have friends, and TamurLAME has none. That’s why I feel secure, with a sense of community, while TamurLAME is a whiny, aggrieved incel whose only social outlet is bee-yatching on the internet.
He’ll tell you (and tell you, and tell you) that I’m “not being true to myself,” and that I’m a phony. In fact, I’m a man going his own way, and the first part of MGTOW is the recognition that my way isn’t anyone else’s. I don’t expect TamurLAME to understand this, but if he’s going to hang out here (by any other name) he ought to come up with a more entertaining way to troll me.
Boxer
If someone is a fornicator or a homosexual or a ninja-loving polygamist or a Catholic, I’ll treat them civilly. I don’t have to agree with them or be their mom. I’ve had a number of homosexual friends, and they always knew how I felt about it. And you know what? We still managed to find ways to be civil and be friends. I’ll criticize someone’s actions and judge them on the merits of their words. And I’ll do it harshly at times. But at the end of the day, they are still people and I’ll treat them with dignity.