…aposematism, butch-dyke haircut, nose-bone, 1000-yard stare…
Someone recently linked me to an insipid article on the Good Men Project, which I won’t pass along here, about how “Men Who Cry Are Beautiful.” I followed a link from that dopey rant to a feminist site, featuring an equally stupid article entitled “How Women Feel When Men Cry.” It’s a rambling collection of wimminz fantasies – each about having her own personal bitch who cries in front of her. Here’s a taste:
This wimminz wants men to feel “empowered” to cry in front of her, while simultaneously admitting that the man who does this moves from lover to child in her mind.
Wimminz have no idea what they want, and they have no idea what makes a man good at being a man. I have some idea, and here’s a general postulate:
A competent man is the master of his own emotions.
A good man, and by this I mean a man who is good at being a man (definition thanks to Jack Donovan) is in control of himself at all times. There will be times when he will express emotions, but those times are generally limited to moments of incredible stress, or moments when he is surrounded by close and trusted friends, his tribe, as it were.
There are a few notable examples of men crying. These made an impression on me in my youth, only because I recognized, from an early age, that a crying man is an extraordinary event.
- Elderly veterans of WWII at a reunion
- Old farmers watching their herds get slaughtered
- My uncle, at his own father’s funeral
I suppose it is acceptable to cry over a woman — if that woman is your mother, your grandmother, or your wife of 20 years, and if that woman is dead or dying.
Should you cry about a breakup? Maybe, but never in front of the woman who dumped you. Don’t give her the satisfaction.
This woman’s boyfriend started blubbering, and the wimminz who dumped him for Chad was able to get a huge ego boost, while moving him from the lover column to the kid column. In that instant, her boyfriend became forever-after untouchable.
He should have laughed in her face, and told her: “Cool, I’m bored of fucking you anyway…”
Had he done this, then the bitch would have second-guessed her decision. In fact, she would likely have come grovelling back to him, after Chad’s cock got boring, and then he would have had some tears to savor.
Young brothers should never cry over a bitch, because bitches are always already disloyal anyway. Don’t give them the satisfaction.
I honestly don’t have any fucking idea of what that first quoted paragraph is supposed to be saying, but it just shows that boys raised by women are doomed to failure 99/100 times. Women can’t teach boys to be men.
I’ve been working with my younger boy on mastering his emotions. He gets upset over little bullshit stuff and I’m teaching him how to handle minor things (ignore/shrug) vs. dealing with meaningful issues.
A man could look at the headline photo on this post and be tempted to cry, if he starts thinking this may soon be all that is left of American womanhood.
This is absolutely true as a general principle.
The times I’ve cried in the last two years have generally been times of extreme stress and difficulty: (1) at the unexpected departure of a close friend; (2) when experiencing great physical pain; (3) when I had to decide to amputate my daughters leg. The latter was the hardest for me, and I mourned publicly.
I don’t cry over the stuff that makes my wife cry.
They really can’t. My wife recognizes that there are boy things that should not involve girls. Like boy scouts. Just yesterday we went to “back to school night” at the elementary school and they announced a girls club. We both looked at each other and said “what about the boys?”, but of course there was no corresponding club. Boys don’t get many male role models in school. If they don’t have present fathers, they stay immature.
I’ve been going through the exact same thing.
I had a near-breakdown at work a few weeks ago when my coworkers did an intervention on how withdrawn I’d become. Depression comes and goes, it’s part of the social isolation that comes with MGTOW monkhood, but I thought I’d been managing it better.
It doesn’t help, however, that the women at work nag me when I have to cooperate with them. My God, they NAG. They won’t stop nagging. They can’t. And then they get frustrated when I withdraw.
I need female-free work but God only knows where to find that these days.
Last time I legit cried was the death of my grandfather.
One thing I’ve learned about mastering emotions is that it takes a strong man (Christ, your father, a good male role model) to help you do it. Women more often than not give you plenty to have your emotions go out of control.
I cried less when my grandfather died than when my grandmother died (first). I cried for him and his loss. They married in their early 20’s after less than a year total of dating and engagement. They were married into their 80’s. When she died, it was like a huge piece of him died. His sorrow was complete. I truly met the man that day. My grandfather’s death was bitter, yet sweet as it ended the separation of two joined as one.
It will be the same for me if my wife goes before I do. I don’t know how widowers manage to carry on.
A true woman, the mother of children, grand-children, and great-grandchildren, deserves the tears, for she has earned that respect.
When a man cries, you see what matters to him most. This is as it should be.
I get to work from home some now, which has saved me multiple vacation days already. Office is 90% female on my floor (yes, even in IT) and I was taking vacation days just to get away from it a couple times a month.
Gunner Q, any of the trades tend to have few to no women. Oddly enough the chicks like work as a concept but don’t care for pouring concrete or pipefitting. Though trades may not be a good fit for you depending on your age and temperment. I love it but it’s not for every man.
Wimminz have no idea what they want, and they have no idea what makes a man good at being a man.
The first clause isn’t true; the second is. Let me explain the first.
Sure, women know what they want. It’s just that they can’t have what they say they want. And once they get what they want, they find out they want not so much of it when it comes to men crying. ANd more importantly, the words they use in talking about this subject are loaded, and they’re not really saying all the words they intend.
What women mean when they say
“we love it when a man cries”
is
“I love it when my sexually attractive, confident, dominant man weeps silently at something that has touched him deeply, but only very, very rarely, and only when I want him to, and only how I want him to. He can weep, silently, a solitary tear running down his cheek. And it cannot last for hours. One hour, tops. And then he has to pull his shit together and get back to normal life. And he cannot do this every week or on a regular basis. Once every, oh, six months or so, maybe.
“He cannot heave sob or sup-sup like a little girl. He cannot weep and wail like a bitch. He cannot get drunk and cry into his beer. Or, he can do those things, but no way can he do them in my presence.
“He can cry in the approved manner when a close relative dies, or his dog dies. That’s it. He is NOT allowed to cry in my presence for ANY other reason. EVER.
“If he violates any of these rules I’ve set down but will never ever say, ever, I will lose attraction for him and I will never forgive him for it.”
Jew613 @ 13:15:
“Gunner Q, any of the trades tend to have few to no women. Oddly enough the chicks like work as a concept but don.t care for pouring concrete or pipefitting. Though trades may not be a good fit for you depending on your age and temperment. I love it but it.s not for every man.”
I’m only one step removed from the trades right now, in civil engineering. On-site stuff, not just design work in cubicles. Women are forcing their way in everywhere.
I could do fieldwork exclusively but that would require me to give up promotions. I want to get into the hiring side in order to favor white men. Nobody will give them a job unless it’s me calling the shots so that’s my career focus. Already, I’m a training lead. No point in avoiding women just to end up surrounded by Mexicans and Hindus.
In the unlikely event you know any young white guys needing work “south of San Jose”, please direct them to my blog. I want to assemble a waiting list of hires for the next time a position opens. It might not start full-time but I swear to teach him everything I know. It’s a lot.
@deti…
That just sounds like a roundabout way of saying…women don’t know what they want.
Either that or what they really want is to be gods…and that was revealed by how Satan tempted Eve.
You could do that with anything they say…
‘I like a sense of humor’
What she means is she wants sexy dominant hunk to make her laugh but only things she knows that are funny and only when she wants to laugh. Otherwise attraction is gone…looks for another Chad…blah blah blah. It’s no wonder it used to be fathers who decided which guy was going to marry his daughter.
In today’s: What sometimes happens when kids grow up in a single mother household
‘Indiana man, 34, who impregnated 10-year-old girl, gets over 100 years in prison’
http://www.foxnews.com/us/2018/09/21/indiana-man-34-who-impregnated-10-year-old-girl-gets-over-100-years-in-prison.html
The lowlights….
The father was unavailable for comment.
The mother of the daughter wanted her to lie saying a classmate did it (possibly ruining some innocent kid’s rep).
The general idea that wimminz will let your progeny get molested or killed by another man so they can keep that man.
Highlights.
‘The girl.s mother also faces charges relating to the case, including neglect, aiding in child molesting and assisting a criminal, Marion-based newspaper the Chronicle-Tribune reported.’
My guess on her punishment…probation and 10 hours of community service. She is a woman in the United States after all.
Gunner Q, I dont really, but if it ever comes up I will send them to your blog. But you doing this is a good thing, if white men dont start looking out for themselves no one else will.
This has always been a non-sensical conversation to me.
If God didn’t mean for men to cry, we wouldn’t have tear ducts.
Crying is not the sole purview of women.
Why is this a thing, crying as an indication (or lack thereof) of masculinity?
Didn’t say it was. Read the article again.
Thanks for posting your blog, by the way. Added a link in the sidebar.
Why is this a thing, crying as an indication (or lack thereof) of masculinity?
I think the lack of masculinity is seen when a person looses control of their self and their emotions, beyond what is expected of a man. A few tears at the right time are acceptable, however nobody can respect a man who turns into a useless blubbering fool too often.
In the forty years my dad and I had together, I saw him cry twice, briefly, and quietly. I literally saw Spock on Star Trek cry more. I think fits of out of control anger, and other emotions getting out of control are also not the pinnacle of masculinity either. Keeping your emotions self controlled is a sign of masculine self-mastery. It was also formerly expected of men’s deportment, that they not forget themselves.
Forget Oneself: To lose one’s reserve, temper, or self-restraint.
Forget Oneself: To lose one’s dignity, temper, or self-control.
Thanks
This book and movie makes me cry / tear-up every time I get to the end ..
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Where_the_Red_Fern_Grows
Knowing this .. I never allow anyone to see me read or watch this .. jus’ sayin’ .. a grown man is in control of his emotions (in front of other people).
“This has always been a non-sensical conversation to me. If God didn.t mean for men to cry, we wouldn.t have tear ducts.”
Please don’t apply this logic to male nipples.
GQ .. your “STOICISM” is showing .. (don’t change brother).
.This has always been a non-sensical conversation to me. If God didn.t mean for men to cry, we wouldn.t have tear ducts..
Please don.t apply this logic to male nipples.
HAH!
Please don.t apply this logic to male nipples.
Tear ducts do not produce tears in either male or female. Nipples do not produce milk in either male or female. So whatever “logic” redpill was using applies to nipples of both sexes and well as to the tear ducts of both sexes. That is, the nipples and tear ducts only transmit something produced by the body of either sex.
Tear glands, or lacrimal glands, produce tears, that then exit through the tear ducts.
For both women and men, breast tissue contains hollow cavities called alveoli, which are lined with milk-secreting cells (from the link). Men can produce breast milk. They just usually don’t.
The thing that causes milk production is a hormone called prolactin – which women have a lot of and men not so much.
https://www.livescience.com/45732-can-men-lactate.html
I know it’s old .. AND we men here today disn’t fail this shit-test .. but here ya go ..
Cry (joking) all ya’ want .. they (th wimminz) don’t want saving .. the end is nigh.