Online dating game is not difficult. What I do is put up no more than three photos. One establishes me as from elsewhere (chicks think foreigners are exotic). One is me at work, and the other is me with a girl, dog, or cat (preselection plus a general empathy signal).
About 80% of the messages I get are totally useless fuggos, women wanting housing/rides/dinners, and open offers of prostitution. Despite this, I get enough good leads to make it all worthwhile. This is one. Critique my game, and predict how I did when I met her, less than 12h later.
Gay.
eh…….people are born with it or not. Anyone “learning” game who has none will never have it…or it will come of asd forced and fake. Kind of like trying to teach my older brother (who has Downs Syndrome with profound mental retardation) to read better than a first grade level when his ability will only allow him a first grade reading levl (heck, his reading ability is better than some folks who are supposedly normal in todays world)
I got nothing. Turn to a life of celibacy before engaging in that kind of horrifying game? Sounds dreadful.
Out of curiosity, how did you attract commenters who are either married, not playing the game, or just plain inept at it? (Or else, perhaps, this is my failed understanding of the situation)
The ‘game’ of chastity is much more challenging and rewarding.
Boxer has got the shooting fish in a barrel down.
I started this blog years ago, when I was teaching at a community college. I was watching a bunch of men (not too much younger than I was) make a bunch of dumb mistakes, largely by pedestalizing unworthy wimminz. It was a sort of place I could shout out all the things I wished I could tell them in a professional capacity.
For better and for worse, society has changed markedly, in just the last five years. Today, young men of that age have attitudes toward wimminz that put any of my advice to shame.
I can’t disagree. When I first found “game” I realized I had already been using it, crudely. I improved drastically with the help of Roosh and Heartiste (then called Roissy). Then I got jaded.
Game is “crazy wisdom”. It rapidly teaches you that random sex is meaningless and dangerous. I like having sex, and won’t condemn anyone else who does it. I try to advise any passersby to have sex in the safest (medically, legally, and morally) ways possible, but you’re right. This is because most of us don’t have the self-discipline to live your lifestyle.
Ultimately, society will improve when enough men like me become the monogamists we’d like to see in the world. Right now, the legal paradigm is just too dangerous for me to try this, and at this point, I’m so morally damaged that I doubt my ability to ever make a good woman a passable husband. So, here I am.
I don’t have the self-discipline to live out that lifestyle either. I only recently came to the decision to embark on that life once I started reading about chastity and finally getting what it is about. It was similar to Augustine’s prayer of .Lord, make me chaste . but not yet!. Once I understood it better…then I wanted it, but it really does take God’s grace and help to have the self-discipline. There’s always going to be temptations out there.
Chastity is not strictly abstinence which is basically a set of ‘don’t dos’…and I don’t think that works. It doesn’t go in depth as to why sex and your God given sexuality is a great thing. It’s ordered sexual desire…and what’s above that order is love. You have to give people a reason why the other option is something worth doing. Both sexual repression and liberation damage a person.
And you don’t have to be morally damaged to the point of no return. It starts with repentence, seeking God’s mercy, and trying again. I’ve done it plenty.